My Friend's House

Below is a recommendation from the National Institute on Aging. The list is for those experiencing loneliness. While the list has some great ideas, MY FRIEND’S HOUSE believes followers of Jesus are to be the initiators in connecting the lonely with the local church. It’s our responsibility to seek out and to pursue…to find people in need of socialization, purpose and hope found in Jesus.

The italicized bold words in the list below are for those that are not isolated and lonely. They are for the purpose of encouraging the body of Christ to get out of their comfort zone and incorporate a possible a new lifestyle and way of thinking. The words that are not bold are the recommendation to the lonely from the National Institute on Aging. More than likely, the aging will never read these recommendations.

National Institute on Aging

Here are some other ideas to help you stay connected.

• Find an activity that you enjoy, restart an old hobby, or take a class to learn something new. You might have fun and meet people with similar interests. (Find out what activity your neighbor enjoys. Engage in the activity, hobby or class with them. If you are unable, see if you can find someone that would be interested.)
• Schedule time each day to stay in touch with family, friends, and neighbors in person, by email, social media, voice call, or text. Talk with people you trust and share your feelings. Suggest an activity to help nurture and strengthen existing relationships. Sending letters or cards is another good way to keep up friendships. (Schedule a weekly time to call or visit with a neighbor. In person is best, phone call is second best. Build trust over time through active listening and consistent communication. If possible, suggest a walk or meeting for coffee. Lastly, sending a post card if you are out of town is a great way to let people know you are thinking of them.)
• Use communication technologies such as video chat, smart speakers, or even companion robots to help keep you engaged and connected. (Set up communication technologies, if available. Nix the companion robot idea. Many elderly do not have technological devices. If this is the case, stick to in person visits.)
• If you’re not tech-savvy, sign up for an online or in-person class at your local public library or community center to help you learn how to use email or social media. (If your neighbor does have a computer, go with them to the library or community center to learn how to use email or social media. This will not be a substitute for in person visits, but it will help your neighbor interact with others at the library or community center.)
• Consider adopting a pet if you are able to care for them. Animals can be a source of comfort and may also lower stress and blood pressure. (Help your neighbor in their selection of a companion animal if that is something they desire. Or, consider sharing your pet for companion visits if your dog has a good temperament for bringing comfort.)
• Stay physically active and include group exercise, such as joining a walking club or working out with a friend. Adults should aim for at least 150 minutes (2 1/2 hours) of activity a week that makes you breathe hard. (Exercise with the person you are reaching out to. If they are unable to go out for exercise, there are some wonderful videos for seniors or beginners that can be seen on YouTube.)
• Introduce yourself to your neighbors. (Introduce yourself to your neighbors.)
• Find a faith-based organization where you can deepen your spirituality and engage with others in activities and events. (Personally invite your neighbor your church or faith-based social event. These events are found on the MFH Engagement Opportunities page.)
• Check out resources and programs at your local social service agencies, community and senior centers, and public libraries. (Check out resources and programs that you could enjoy with your neighbors on county or city websites as well as the MFH Engagement Opportunities page. Consider bingo games, bunco games and painting classes, etc.)
• Join a cause and get involved in your community. (Find a cause, a place to serve that can give your neighbor purpose. Does your neighbor enjoy baking? Encourage them to bake and donate to a shelter to bless the homeless. Do they enjoy gardening? Connect them with other neighbors that would enjoy their labors.)

If you are aware of someone that needs visitation, and you need help reaching them or don’t know where to start, email MY FRIEND’S HOUSE at myfriendshouse686@gmail.com. MY FRIEND’S HOUSE exists to help you place the lonely in families.

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